In Our Life,sometime we have to deal with most of situations with each is very difficult to handle and not easy to solve them.There are so many confusions towards us to solve them.
What to say when you have to break bad news or confront someone who's upset you.
How you tackle awkward situations like these can make or break relationships.
And if you find the right words when you're breaking up with a partner, you could avoid everything turning nasty.
The first rule is to tackle any awkward situation with kindness and honesty. Pick a good time and place when you won't be disturbed, make eye contact and be sincere. Use "I" messages not "you" to avoid them becoming defensive.
For example: "I feel sad about this happening" not "You always upset me". The key to success is diplomacy. Being aggressive never helps.
Here is a conversation that you'd rather not have :-
Telling your partner you're leaving them
Pick a neutral place rather than your home. Go for a walk or, if you can afford it, suggest a weekend break, explaining in advance that you have concerns. For instance, say: "Let's go away and talk about where we are in this relationship and how it's progressing."
Then when you're alone, it's time for the "I don't think this is working, do you?" conversation. Ask how your partner is feeling - the chances are they're unhappy too.
Be kind and generous as you hold all the power here. Offer to help make the split easier and ask if there is anything you can do on this front. Be thoughtful but don't feel responsible for how they take the news.
If you're not happy in the relationship, you owe it to both of you to end it.
Telling a new partner you have a sexually transmitted infection:-
If you have a sexually transmitted infection, you owe it morally to any new partner to tell them before you have sex.
Before you talk, make sure you know as much as possible about the condition, how infectious it is and its implications. That way you'll be able to answer any questions. Most infections are curable but herpes, for example, is a lifelong but manageable condition.
A good opener is: "There's something I have to tell you - and I will go with whatever you say here. If you'd rather not have sex with me afterwards, I'll understand." You have little power in this situation and it's up to the other person to decide what happens next - all you can do is present the facts and hope they admire your truthfulness.
Getting siblings to help care for elderly parents:-
This is a situation in which you can be very business-like. Write down a list of your issues and possible resolutions and then call a family meeting.
When everyone arrives, get them together around a table and explain: "I've got you here to talk about how we can best look after Mum and Dad. I feel like I'm doing more than my fair share and, while I'm happy to do my bit, I need some help."
Then everybody can state what they are prepared to do - whether financially or in terms of giving more time. You might divide up weekend duties or organize shared holidays but write down the plans to ensure there is a record and people keep their promises.
Telling a young child someone has died:-
Children of three or four become obsessed by death, so this is a good time to talk to them about it using examples from nature such as dead flowers or animals. It's important that death is something that can be talked about openly and doesn't become taboo or frightening.
Then, if a loved one dies, it's a concept they already understand. The golden rule is to be honest and answer all their questions as best you can. Be truthful: "Granny's gone to sleep" or "She's up in the sky" can be confusing. Use religious explanations if you have a faith. If you're not a religious believer, a statement such as: "Nobody knows exactly what happens when we die but it's not something you have to worry about for a very long time" can be useful.
Getting an interfering mum to back off:-
You may have to fall out with your mum for a while to fix things. I know I did. If your mother is interfering too much in your life - or with your children - it needs a forthright conversation where you calmly point out the things she is doing and how they make you feel.
She may feel hurt and you might both need a cooling-off period but, if you love each other, you can then get together and renegotiate your relationship.
Agree rules such as no unannounced visits and, if disciplining your kids is an issue, ask her not to do this without your permission.
Confronting your children about drug-taking:-
If you have a good relationship with your kids, general conversations about drugs needn't be a big deal.
If you've found evidence of them taking drugs you need to confront them with it but don't get angry or they'll clam up.
For instance, start with: "I've found this and I'm very concerned. I'd like you to tell me what's going on." Promise not to judge, tell the police or embarrass them in any way. Keep your tone calm but concerned - pulling rank or shouting will make your child less likely to confide in you.
Then it's about deciding together what should happen next. Are they planning to continue taking drugs? Why are they doing it - is it peer pressure or are they unhappy? Make sure they know the full health and legal implications of the particular drug.
Tackling a work colleague who's bad-mouthed you:-
It's not advisable to confront the person you think is spreading rumors, especially without firm evidence.
Instead gather information, talk to colleagues and ask them what they've heard, speak to your supervisor and then go to human resources.
Tell them you have evidence that someone is saying bad things about you and it's really upsetting you and affecting your work. Explain that you want some confidential advice. Just talking to them will usually help ease your anger and anxiety.
Doing things the right way ensures that you won't get into trouble and will get the help and support you need. Remember, it's in HR's best interests to have happy, efficient staff.
Ditching a friendship that's not working:-
This is one situation where you can usually avoid a confrontation. If you're not getting any pleasure from a friendship it's probably over - not all friendships are for life.
Gradually seeing someone less and being busy when they suggest meeting is kinder than saying outright that you don't want to see them anymore.
However, if it's a good friend who's going through a difficult patch but is draining you by dominating the conversation with their problems, explain that you're finding it too much. Say "You know, our conversations always seem to be about you. Let's give it a break."
Link:- http://www.mirror.co.uk/showbiz/yourlife/drmiriam/2008/07/03/health-advice-how-to-deal-with-difficult-situations-89520-20629890